In a world where an opinion can be shared in an instant. Social media has given everyone a voice. Hashtags have brought millions of us together and have tore many others apart. It makes this huge world seem like a community where everyone can speak on any subject, television show, and or event. Facebook is soon giving us a new luxury in the comment/like section. We will now be allowed to emoji a person’s photo with these (Love, Haha, Wow, Yay, Angry and Sad) instead of have just a like button. Whether it’s parents over-posting their children’s first day of school or people posting their latest doggie pic well now with just one click we now have the new found freedom to take a huge dump on the moment they chose to share with us. I understand where this need to create an option like this derived from, and it’s because everyone who has access to a phone or the internet has gotten into heated arguments online. Everyone from a elementary school level to my grandmother is Yelping ,tweeting, snapping and IGing at people they know and also to complete strangers. Facebook has caught on. As a person who is out there in the media I have caught my own dosage of the “Mean Tweets”. I want to also brag to you that I didn’t even respond… But that would be a big fat Lie.
When I was a kid and made a rude comment to another child at school I was faced with the instant consequences of that mean statement. Either the the receiver of the mean comment would end up getting very upset and I immediately felt terrible about it and as a result, I learned right away the consequences of my actions. Or … The kid got very mad and you and him/her got into a fight usually involving parents, teachers, or even friends. So the moral of the story is that in the past you had the cause and immediate effect of your verbal communication with another. That’s my generation, I quickly learned that if you don’t have anything nice to say that is uplifting don’t say anything at all. Now with that said, if you see my respond tweets that I wrote after appearing live on HLN’s “The Daily Share” I just couldn’t hold it in and my old school mentality kicked in “I need to confront this person now”!, I thought. After I did they backed down quickly and even became friendly. This taught me a lesson. Wow, these people at home don’t know me. It’s not personal and they are probably bored. Also, I shouldn’t have answered back but the reason I felt I NEEDED to respond was because of one tiny monster, my ego! My ego was screaming how dare they go there…. I need to nicely let them know they can’t mess with me. But frankly I didn’t. It wasn’t necessary. About a year ago my morning radio show got into a war with another morning NYC radio show where they thought we stole a bit from them and their fans went after us with nasty tweets and Facebook posts of horrific nature and messages. I was called a “Cum Bucket”… (Didn’t even know that was a word combination that could be used in real life) A half -breed, I was sent pictures of dead babies with attached messages saying “these are you future children”. Gaping butt-holes of women and men. The Harrasment went on for months! It was my first taste of fame and it was awful! So the takeaway is this stop being an asshole online because you’re bored.The mean tweets and messages you are putting out there is nasty negative energy and it’s going to come back to you with a vengeance. Just because you didn’t get a rise out of the person you tweet or IG doesn’t mean that you aren’t inviting that kind of behavior into your own life ten-fold.If you spent that energy improving yourself instead of tearing others down the world would be a much better and happier place.